That Relationship Can Still Work Out (2)

By way of a reminder in “THAT RELATIONSHIP CAN STILL WORK OUT (1)”, we agreed that having a healthy and thriving relationship is possible and achievable.  I also set the stage going by explaining 3 of the principles for making the relationships work:
 i.   Make up your mind to be happy 
  ii.    Make Commitment a habit
iii.  Learn to humbly forgive and admit your faults as the case may be 

                 

In this second part of the series, I will continue by outlining 3 more principles for healing a relationship:

1.       Face The Facts:  From the word go, it will be important that you realize that all relationships will have their days of fighting, disagreements, sadness and happiness.  Facing the facts means that both parties to the relationship realize that ‘conflicts happen’ in relationships. And make up their minds to resolve the causes of these sadness, fighting, disagreements etc instead of fighting each other and leaving the causatives to deepen and tire apart the relationship. Decide to make the relationship work irrespective of the odds (be ready to make sacrifices).

This resolution is important because it helps you to focus and effectively manage the issues tending to tire away the relationship. Paying attention to this principle will help get through such trying times and come out of it with a better relationship (understanding for each other).

Another way to look at is that it will be important that you periodically ‘Review your expectations’ from any relationship you are in.

That Relationship Can Still Work Out (1)

I will start assuming that we already know what our definition of relation is; in case you will need to refresh your mind on that please click here.

To have a healthy and thriving relationship is: possible, achievable and something within your capability. However you must realize that both parties to the relationship must be willing to make the relationship work.

What are the things that each of the parties must pay attention to? Below are some of the fundamental things to pay attention to:

1.  Make Up Your Mind To Be Happy: Each parties to a relationship should be responsible enough to take charge of their happiness. By happiness, I mean the mental or emotional state of well-being characterized by positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. This is so fundamentally important to the human condition that "life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness" were deemed to be unalienable rights by the United States Declaration of Independence.

In plain word, I am saying that you should endeavour to save yourself hours of sadness or arguing by motivating yourself at all times to be happy.  It is good enough to blame others, curse, give excuses that the other parties to our relationships:

   -  make us who we are (have by their behaviour moulded us to do the things we do).

The truth however is that "it's not up to anyone else to make you happy". You can be as happy or as sad as you choose to be. Therefore stay in charge of your life so that others do not drive it and make you to always do the things that you do not admire or always regret.

Relationship Helps: Loving Relationships

A strong, healthy relationship can be one of the best supports in your life. Good relationships improve all aspects of your life, strengthening your health, your mind, and your connections with others.

However, if the relationship isn't working, it can also be a tremendous drain. Relationships are an investment. The more you put in, the more you can get back. These tips can help keep a healthy relationship strong, or repair trust and love in a relationship on the rocks.

How to strengthen your loving relationship

Everyone’s relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. But there are some things that good relationships have in common. Knowing the basic principles of healthy relationships helps keep them meaningful, fulfilling and exciting in both happy times and sad:
What makes a healthy love relationship?

1. Staying involved with each other. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without truly relating to each other and working together. While it may seem stable on the surface, lack of involvement and communication increases distance. When you need to talk about something important, the connection and understanding may no longer be there.

Relationship

Definition

A relationship is an association between two or more people that may be brief or enduring in extent.

The type of relationship one engages in is determined by the issues discussed in the basis for defining relationship below. Individuals can have relationships with:

1)  Another individual (be it same sex or the opposite sex)
2)  A group (as we see in the case of a leader and the people he/she leads; whether it be a family, church, community etc)

Most scholarly works on relationships spotlights the subsets of relationships - relationships involving people in pairs (group of two).

Basis For Entering Relationships

Secrets To A Strong And Successful Relationship

Ann Smith while discussing on the topic “Secrets To A Strong, Successful Relationship” said the following about relationship:

“Relationships are an important part of life.  They are a way to connect, feel understood and be loved.  Because of their significance, it is necessary to make an effort to create strong bonds”. 

She went further to state that relationships require:

a)     Work

b)     Patience

c)     And understanding

And it must be characterized by:

a)     True commitment

b)     Good communication

c)     Mature love

d)     And wisdom learnt from past mistakes

She passionately advocated the fact that relationships are not fully understood WHEN THE ABOVE ARE TAKEN FOR GRANTED.