Relationship

Definition

A relationship is an association between two or more people that may be brief or enduring in extent.

The type of relationship one engages in is determined by the issues discussed in the basis for defining relationship below. Individuals can have relationships with:

1)  Another individual (be it same sex or the opposite sex)
2)  A group (as we see in the case of a leader and the people he/she leads; whether it be a family, church, community etc)

Most scholarly works on relationships spotlights the subsets of relationships - relationships involving people in pairs (group of two).

Basis For Entering Relationships

Secrets To A Strong And Successful Relationship

Ann Smith while discussing on the topic “Secrets To A Strong, Successful Relationship” said the following about relationship:

“Relationships are an important part of life.  They are a way to connect, feel understood and be loved.  Because of their significance, it is necessary to make an effort to create strong bonds”. 

She went further to state that relationships require:

a)     Work

b)     Patience

c)     And understanding

And it must be characterized by:

a)     True commitment

b)     Good communication

c)     Mature love

d)     And wisdom learnt from past mistakes

She passionately advocated the fact that relationships are not fully understood WHEN THE ABOVE ARE TAKEN FOR GRANTED.

MY CHURCH

Oh! my home church,
When shall I feel the warmth of your love again!
And hear the voices of thy children within you,
Praising and worshiping your foundation and Head!
When will my sojourn away from you end?
I long to be back in thy within,
With thy children and feel your warmth again!
So far away, yet so close thou art to my heart,
Thy husband will surely bring me back,
Again within you before the raptures.
Your children - the fruits of thy existence.
I miss you uniquely!

Afelumo J Sesan (1997)

HONOURS

Pigs are animals of honour,

Pleasant, tasty and oily,

Shunning dirt with her horns,

Yet, detested by the honourable.

The street plated with honour,

Is a marksman to glory,

Empowering its victims with righteousness,

Also a reflecting mirror to the dishonourable.

God’s horn is honour,

Hence His mills grind slowly,

But grinds exceedingly small every attitude,

Making the dishonourable honourable.

Emmanuel O. Lekwa

Woman, Thou Art Loose

Behold, the loose woman

Her beauty and pride is likened to that of a peacock

Her eyes shimmering like thunder light

Her lips like a snake and tasty as honeycomb

Her neck like the tower of ivory

Her hair like that of a mermaid

Her breast as succulent as a fresh fruit in summer

Bejeweled in gold, precious stones and pearls                         

Perfumed with myrrh

In the twilight

She swaggers

Like a roaring lion

Seeking the attention of all men

Or should I say, all loose men.

Flee! All men of the city

For she has come

Never drink of the wine of her fornication

Never decline to her ways or the flattering of her lips

She has destroyed many homes

Yet she has failed to build one

Her beauty is vanity

Women, be on the alert

For she has come

Never decline to her ways

Her ways are painful pleasures

Put on your veil of virtue

Gird your loins with love

And wage war against the loose woman

By Paschaline Nchedo Chukwuka