Relationship Helps: Loving Relationships

A strong, healthy relationship can be one of the best supports in your life. Good relationships improve all aspects of your life, strengthening your health, your mind, and your connections with others.

However, if the relationship isn't working, it can also be a tremendous drain. Relationships are an investment. The more you put in, the more you can get back. These tips can help keep a healthy relationship strong, or repair trust and love in a relationship on the rocks.

How to strengthen your loving relationship

Everyone’s relationship is unique, and people come together for many different reasons. But there are some things that good relationships have in common. Knowing the basic principles of healthy relationships helps keep them meaningful, fulfilling and exciting in both happy times and sad:
What makes a healthy love relationship?

1. Staying involved with each other. Some relationships get stuck in peaceful coexistence, but without truly relating to each other and working together. While it may seem stable on the surface, lack of involvement and communication increases distance. When you need to talk about something important, the connection and understanding may no longer be there.

Relationship

Definition

A relationship is an association between two or more people that may be brief or enduring in extent.

The type of relationship one engages in is determined by the issues discussed in the basis for defining relationship below. Individuals can have relationships with:

1)  Another individual (be it same sex or the opposite sex)
2)  A group (as we see in the case of a leader and the people he/she leads; whether it be a family, church, community etc)

Most scholarly works on relationships spotlights the subsets of relationships - relationships involving people in pairs (group of two).

Basis For Entering Relationships

Secrets To A Strong And Successful Relationship

Ann Smith while discussing on the topic “Secrets To A Strong, Successful Relationship” said the following about relationship:

“Relationships are an important part of life.  They are a way to connect, feel understood and be loved.  Because of their significance, it is necessary to make an effort to create strong bonds”. 

She went further to state that relationships require:

a)     Work

b)     Patience

c)     And understanding

And it must be characterized by:

a)     True commitment

b)     Good communication

c)     Mature love

d)     And wisdom learnt from past mistakes

She passionately advocated the fact that relationships are not fully understood WHEN THE ABOVE ARE TAKEN FOR GRANTED.

MY CHURCH

Oh! my home church,
When shall I feel the warmth of your love again!
And hear the voices of thy children within you,
Praising and worshiping your foundation and Head!
When will my sojourn away from you end?
I long to be back in thy within,
With thy children and feel your warmth again!
So far away, yet so close thou art to my heart,
Thy husband will surely bring me back,
Again within you before the raptures.
Your children - the fruits of thy existence.
I miss you uniquely!

Afelumo J Sesan (1997)

HONOURS

Pigs are animals of honour,

Pleasant, tasty and oily,

Shunning dirt with her horns,

Yet, detested by the honourable.

The street plated with honour,

Is a marksman to glory,

Empowering its victims with righteousness,

Also a reflecting mirror to the dishonourable.

God’s horn is honour,

Hence His mills grind slowly,

But grinds exceedingly small every attitude,

Making the dishonourable honourable.

Emmanuel O. Lekwa

Woman, Thou Art Loose

Behold, the loose woman

Her beauty and pride is likened to that of a peacock

Her eyes shimmering like thunder light

Her lips like a snake and tasty as honeycomb

Her neck like the tower of ivory

Her hair like that of a mermaid

Her breast as succulent as a fresh fruit in summer

Bejeweled in gold, precious stones and pearls                         

Perfumed with myrrh

In the twilight

She swaggers

Like a roaring lion

Seeking the attention of all men

Or should I say, all loose men.

Flee! All men of the city

For she has come

Never drink of the wine of her fornication

Never decline to her ways or the flattering of her lips

She has destroyed many homes

Yet she has failed to build one

Her beauty is vanity

Women, be on the alert

For she has come

Never decline to her ways

Her ways are painful pleasures

Put on your veil of virtue

Gird your loins with love

And wage war against the loose woman

By Paschaline Nchedo Chukwuka

THE PHENOMENON

Oh! Have you heard of the phenomenon?

To him, work is a breathe

And Elyons’ hit track his anthem

Can I ever get to be like this phenomenon, just wait until he’s revealed!

By the way, what is this phenomenon?

This is the healthy capsule for every troubled situation

Whose efficacy is as potent by night as in the day

Cease to ask yourself if he sleeps?

Inspired by the phenomenon?

To Him the computer is a time bomb

And explodes whoever discovers its powers

Consequently he bores multiple tunnels from which to unleash this wealth

Now, where is the phenomenon?

Tell me he is in the office with fingers linked and head hanged back

Eyes closed in a trance and temple flooded with ideas

Camry, bring all his bags everyday and file these concepts

New to the phenomenon?

His teeth is clued to the bubble gum

While a tap of black coffee quenches his thirst

Constantly the tonic for switching to gear four in the thought realm

Awsh! What really is this phenomenon?

Though enveloped in work, he sees through everyone with a broad smile

And good human relationship breeds the sacrifices he sweats

Can you see that the phenomenon is the reason we are here

Written By Ugwueje Amarachi 

LOVE

L     -   LET

O     -   OTHERS

V     -   VERIFY YOUR

E     -   EVIDENCES

This is a simple but sincere meaning of love.

LIFE

Love is profound the mind can not comprehend it;
Hope your heart can contain it.

Life is a stress we must cope with;
Hope your threshold can be stretched.

Joy is the stream of life;
Hope you drink from it;

Worship is the people's opium;
Hope yo are wrapped up in God.

Faith is God's driver;
Hope your address is in his itinerary.

Clothing is God's healing for nakedness;
Hope it's balm has rubbed off on you.

Sin is a taskmaster;
Hope your heart is not guided by his whip.

Rest is the garage for the body's repair;
Hope you find time to drive therein.

Poverty is the destruction of the poor;
Hope your hands are diligent.

Success is relative;
Hope your soul perceives it aright.

Beauty is vain;
Hope your eyes is not cast on it.

Education is an emancipator;
Hope your faculties experience her light of literacy.

Finance is the key to comfort;
Hope your hands clamp on its wings.


Emmanuel O. Lekwa (2006)

LOVE

Love, what a taskmaster you could be;
You embraced me with outstretched arms;
And stole the essence of my existence;
Leaving me deaf to the yearning of my environments;
Your lullaby was irresistible;
Addicted, I slept in your arms carelessly.

Not realizing I was lost in love;
Until the sea roared in a 'test';
And I woke up to sleepless nights;
Now draining my joy off its happiness;
Ugh! Your eyes rain me with love;
Alas, your heart hurts me perpetually.

I was tempted to distrust my trust but feared hurting you;
My heart swelled with anger but God melted it;
Yet these things meant nothing to you;
I hovered in this sea until grace craned me out of the mire;
My medal of honour was a heart bleeding to extinction;
Yelp I wished I never knew 'love'.

Love, you have eroded my self-control;
And brought out the child in me;
I would only wish this innocence passed the 'test';
Love, spare me this punishment and cruelty;
And look upon me graciously again;
For I plead to sleep again in your arms.


Emmanuel O. Lekwa (February 15, 2006)

LUST

You Burn Like Coal
Hell Being Your Goal
Your Pleasures Are Explosive
Ha! Your Guilt Kills Like Knife

You Promise Happiness
But Give sadness
You Are Stronger Than New Wine
Banking On The Heart As A Destructive Cine

You Hold Your Prey In Perpetual Bliss
And Condemn Him In Perpetual Blase
Your enticements Make Us Lost In Lust
Ah! God Help Or Lust Will Take Us To The Dust

Flee, My Brothers
Learn To Distrust The Arms Of Dust
Flee, My Sisters
Lest You Lust And Get Lost.

(Culled from the Book: 'Lust And Get Lust' by Emmanuel O. Lekwa)

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